I knew I needed to post something today so I tried to start writing last night. But as per usual, I got distracted in minutes and ended up getting nothing done. So I planned to get writing today after a morning meeting. Instead, I stayed to socialize and then went shopping for things I didn’t need.
When I finally got home, the day was almost over and I had nothing written. I felt too scattered to even come up with an idea and any kind of advice blog I thought of felt insincere since I was struggling so much with my own ADD today.
To be honest, even when I feel or look like I am thriving, my ADD never goes away. It’s not something I will ever cure (and I wouldn’t want to) — it’s something I sometimes can embrace and sometimes have to really fight and work around.
Today is one of those days where my ADD makes it feels like a challenge to do normal things like homework, cleaning and keeping up with my schedule. And I think it is crucial that those of us with ADD can admit that when it happens and ask for help when we need it.
I try to remember that it’s important not to shame myself on days like today, but I always feel really defeated if I realize at the end of the day that I got nothing done. So here are some things I’ve found to do when I really can’t focus on the task at hand.
- Get out of bed. The longer you lie there, the more time you really will waste, which can leave you feeling guilty and ashamed.
- Go for a walk and clear your head.
- Try a guided meditation for focus.
- Run errands. Even if you’re not doing the most important thing on your to-do list, it will feel good to get something done.
- Clean and declutter your workspace as much as you can. Set a tone of positivity and efficiency.
- Call a friend for a pep talk.
- Take a shower.
- Avoid falling down the social media rabbit hole.
- Read an interesting book if you can focus on that.
- Cook or bake something.
- Write a letter to a friend.
- Go to a park.
- Use an energizing essential oil if you’re into that.
- Go to a coffee shop to get your work done. The change of scenery may be what you need.
- Have a little grace with yourself. You are enough and you’re doing your best.
Yes, in some capacity all of these are just distractions to put off what you need to do. But sometimes, we need a little time doing something else before we can settle down to do what’s important. And if nothing else, you will feel a little better at the end of the day knowing you at least used your time to achieve or create in some way.
What do you do when you can’t focus? Let me know in the comments!